Insta quotes that resonate with me
"Stop looking for the perfect partner--they don't exist. Instead, look for someone who's committed to growing, committed to understanding you, and committed to addressing issues."
I definitely fall prey to looking for the "perfect partner" who already baked, already a finished product. I want to be more open to dating someone who's in-progress. But at the same time, I don't want to be with someone who's not willing to work on themselves. So are they in-progress or just haven't made any progress because they don't want to? It's a fine line.
"As you evolve, notice who says 'I'm glad I get to know this version of you too.'"
I've talked a lot in therapy about how there have been distinctly different versions of myself. I've had to learn how to love all of my past versions, and it's interesting that some people from my past don't love my current version.
"You like taking care of people because it heals the part of you that needed someone to take care of you."
I really feel this as a dog mom. It may sound silly, but I shower my dog with love and attention; I give him words of affirmation (you're a good boy); I'm excited to come home and see him after a long day, and I give him undivided attention to play and snuggle and let him sniff me. I had supportive parents, but they weren't like this. And I think I wanted this.
"In hard times, your loved ones don't want to be told to look on the bright side. They want to know that you're on THEIR side. Even if you can't help them feel better, you can always help them feel seen. The best way to support other isn't to cheer them up, it's to show up.
I absolutely love this, and I feel like they taught this a lot when I was growing up in church (that's one thing they got right). When I'm really down, I don't want someone to come in and solve my problems, I want someone to sit in the problem with me.